I'm starting to realize that most happy moments are quite short-lived. And maybe that's the reason they are called 'moments'. We try to make them last longer..we keep dreaming about them and remembering them and reminiscing about the times when... but in the end, the moments pass.
These attempts at trying to hold on what has been or what could be, they are holding us down, grounding us too much even for our own good, and they could even let some other "happy" moments pass us by. So what I decided to do myself was use a pure mathematical/scientific theory to make myself almost constantly happy; instead of trying to elongate the few happy moments in my life, I am going to increase them in number so the end result will be the same :)
I am going to fill my day with little, short and utterly simple happy moments that by the end of the day I would feel as happy as if I'd spend the whole day in one BIG bubble of happiness! Silly, huh? It miraculously works!
Here are a few ideas of how to make many tiny happy moments that would make your day. And I swear, they all work, at least for me...
- Make someone else's day. You'd think this is bumper sticker crap but believe me, it is a CHARM. A genuine compliment, a help with something, a good ear for someone with a problem...anything that would put a smile on someone's appreciative face will leave you feeling content and happy.
- Listen for at least 15 minutes to music that you know is associated with good memories. Childhood memories, a fun wedding, a crazy trip...anything. And sit still and remember those times, you will have an instant smile on your face without even trying.
- If you're alone in the car, sing loudly to a song that you love, not caring if someone can see you from the window. Or if you have a fun office, sing along with people in your office to an old or crazy song and make funny noises.
- Say the stupidest puns (alsh) and laugh hysterically even if no one else thinks it's funny. Believe me, sometimes your laugh alone makes them laugh as well...it IS contagious =D
- Google and watch photos of your favorite "thing" ever (preferably with someone). Dresses, motorcycles, celebrities, mobiles, cars, shoes...whatever it is, the mere excitement of watching them and talking about them even if you're not gonna buy them (or meet them) is enough to get you thrilled for sometime.
- DANCE! My all-time favorite therapy and steam-blowing exercise. You might not have a place to do so, you might not be into dancing, you might be shy, you might not know how, but it doesn't matter! Put you headphones on, lock yourself up in your room, DON'T look in the mirror so you won't feel stupid or self-conscious and just move to any music you love. It works every single time, even with classical music...just move your body.
- Hug people. Hugs are just awesome, they do the trick without even a word. I know it won't work with guys because they can't possibly go around hugging their buddies (and surely not their girl friends), but well, find your self something else boys :D
I have plenty of those but I don't want this to turn into a self-help article (if it not already is), so I'm just gonna leave it at that.
Sometimes I have stress at work, exams, projects, relationship problems, and sometimes a combination of some or all of them. I feel like crying or screaming or running away most of the time, because when you're stressed things seem to get from bad to worse to bad again. But to save myself the suicidal thoughts, I do a few of those things and they slightly lift my spirit up so I'm able to continue struggling for a while.
Yeah, this is definitely a self-help article :D
Cheers!
These attempts at trying to hold on what has been or what could be, they are holding us down, grounding us too much even for our own good, and they could even let some other "happy" moments pass us by. So what I decided to do myself was use a pure mathematical/scientific theory to make myself almost constantly happy; instead of trying to elongate the few happy moments in my life, I am going to increase them in number so the end result will be the same :)
I am going to fill my day with little, short and utterly simple happy moments that by the end of the day I would feel as happy as if I'd spend the whole day in one BIG bubble of happiness! Silly, huh? It miraculously works!
Here are a few ideas of how to make many tiny happy moments that would make your day. And I swear, they all work, at least for me...
- Make someone else's day. You'd think this is bumper sticker crap but believe me, it is a CHARM. A genuine compliment, a help with something, a good ear for someone with a problem...anything that would put a smile on someone's appreciative face will leave you feeling content and happy.
- Listen for at least 15 minutes to music that you know is associated with good memories. Childhood memories, a fun wedding, a crazy trip...anything. And sit still and remember those times, you will have an instant smile on your face without even trying.
- If you're alone in the car, sing loudly to a song that you love, not caring if someone can see you from the window. Or if you have a fun office, sing along with people in your office to an old or crazy song and make funny noises.
- Say the stupidest puns (alsh) and laugh hysterically even if no one else thinks it's funny. Believe me, sometimes your laugh alone makes them laugh as well...it IS contagious =D
- Google and watch photos of your favorite "thing" ever (preferably with someone). Dresses, motorcycles, celebrities, mobiles, cars, shoes...whatever it is, the mere excitement of watching them and talking about them even if you're not gonna buy them (or meet them) is enough to get you thrilled for sometime.
- DANCE! My all-time favorite therapy and steam-blowing exercise. You might not have a place to do so, you might not be into dancing, you might be shy, you might not know how, but it doesn't matter! Put you headphones on, lock yourself up in your room, DON'T look in the mirror so you won't feel stupid or self-conscious and just move to any music you love. It works every single time, even with classical music...just move your body.
- Hug people. Hugs are just awesome, they do the trick without even a word. I know it won't work with guys because they can't possibly go around hugging their buddies (and surely not their girl friends), but well, find your self something else boys :D
I have plenty of those but I don't want this to turn into a self-help article (if it not already is), so I'm just gonna leave it at that.
Sometimes I have stress at work, exams, projects, relationship problems, and sometimes a combination of some or all of them. I feel like crying or screaming or running away most of the time, because when you're stressed things seem to get from bad to worse to bad again. But to save myself the suicidal thoughts, I do a few of those things and they slightly lift my spirit up so I'm able to continue struggling for a while.
Yeah, this is definitely a self-help article :D
Cheers!